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Though I do not provide nor require counseling before
performing a ceremony, there are some things you should
think carefully about.
Enjoy. Do you enjoy the same things? Maybe
it's no big deal now, but later it could be.
Values. Are you able to agree on child
raising, finances, in-laws, goals, and your spirituality?
These can be make or break issues!
Accessibility. Are you both emotionally
accessible? Do you communicate well?
Love. Do you really love each other?
Not the TV/Movie version, but the kind that: listens
to your partner's opinions and concerns? Accepts
them as they are right now? Values them? Supports
them? Expresses itself through kindness?
Understanding. You won't agree on everything,
but can you understand and handle each other's point
of view?
Appreciation. Do you make a habit of
expressing your appreciation for your partner? Does
your partner make a habit of expressing his/her appreciation
for you?
Temperament. Are your personalities
compatible?
Environment. If you're from different
backgrounds, are you comfortable in the same spiritual
and social settings?
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